Ever since I put my resignation letter almost 2 months ago, I receive lots of questions, remarks and comments from people around me. When they heard that I have resigned, the question they'd ask was 'So which company you going to join?', instead of asking 'Why do you resign?'
When I told these people that I'm not going for a new job, but I will be a full time housewife (without telling that I'm going abroad), here are some remarks I got:
"Staying at home? Are you sure about this?"
"You have the cert. and experiences. Why you want to waste such things?"
"Your husband must be rich that now you can quit your job and stay at home, huh?"
Hmm....looks like being a housewife is a degrading move to these people.
Then, they heard that I quit my job because I'm to follow my dear cik HB furthering his studies and I receive these comments:
"Can't your husband go alone? Why must you sacrifice your career?"
"Since you are there and doing nothing, why don't you further study as well?"
"Try get a job or do business, don't waste your time there"
Hello! Doing nothing? Don't they think that taking care husband and kids is a job as well, though it's not a paid one (but we're paid by pahala if we are sincere about it, right?).
So is it wrong if a graduate mother leaves her job simply because she wants to give priority to her family?
My two precious girls
I too, heard these phrases number of times before (not meant for me, mind you!):
'Belajar tinggi-tinggi, akhirnya duduk dapur jugak'
or
'Penat2 mak ayah hantar belajar tinggi2, berhenti jaga anak, buat apa?'
Actually if dear cik HB doesn't further his study abroad, quitting job definitely not in my plan, at least not yet. Because other than helping in paying our daily expenses, I'm also giving monthly allowance to my parents. And now with increasing price of almost everything, of course, I would choose to be working.
But it's a married life, when one spouse gets a better chance to upgrade his career, don't you think that the other half must sacrifice? And to live separately for 2 years time......I think I would be so selfish not to follow dear cik HB and it's not fair to the children as well. Besides, there is no financial problems for the family to go along. And we have done some calculation, with the money that cik HB will receive, we can still give monthly allowance to both sides of our parents.
And my career is not at the peak too, I'm still the underpaid engineer, I hate my job, so what's the big deal about quitting my job? Of course I'm aware that if I'm not working for 2 years period of time, chances for me to get the job that I have now is very slim. Anyway, I never thought of working back as engineer. I'm thinking to further study after we come back or I would find a job that is not so demanding. My priority now is my children. I want to spend more quality time with them.
Anyway I don't intend to put aside the idea that I should be studying or working while I'm staying there. I'll see how are the things there. If the opportunity is there, why not?
Whatever it is, I am redha with the choice I make. So 'shuh-shuh' all the negative remarks!
When I told these people that I'm not going for a new job, but I will be a full time housewife (without telling that I'm going abroad), here are some remarks I got:
"Staying at home? Are you sure about this?"
"You have the cert. and experiences. Why you want to waste such things?"
"Your husband must be rich that now you can quit your job and stay at home, huh?"
Hmm....looks like being a housewife is a degrading move to these people.
Then, they heard that I quit my job because I'm to follow my dear cik HB furthering his studies and I receive these comments:
"Can't your husband go alone? Why must you sacrifice your career?"
"Since you are there and doing nothing, why don't you further study as well?"
"Try get a job or do business, don't waste your time there"
Hello! Doing nothing? Don't they think that taking care husband and kids is a job as well, though it's not a paid one (but we're paid by pahala if we are sincere about it, right?).
So is it wrong if a graduate mother leaves her job simply because she wants to give priority to her family?
My two precious girlsI too, heard these phrases number of times before (not meant for me, mind you!):
'Belajar tinggi-tinggi, akhirnya duduk dapur jugak'
or
'Penat2 mak ayah hantar belajar tinggi2, berhenti jaga anak, buat apa?'
Actually if dear cik HB doesn't further his study abroad, quitting job definitely not in my plan, at least not yet. Because other than helping in paying our daily expenses, I'm also giving monthly allowance to my parents. And now with increasing price of almost everything, of course, I would choose to be working.
But it's a married life, when one spouse gets a better chance to upgrade his career, don't you think that the other half must sacrifice? And to live separately for 2 years time......I think I would be so selfish not to follow dear cik HB and it's not fair to the children as well. Besides, there is no financial problems for the family to go along. And we have done some calculation, with the money that cik HB will receive, we can still give monthly allowance to both sides of our parents.
And my career is not at the peak too, I'm still the underpaid engineer, I hate my job, so what's the big deal about quitting my job? Of course I'm aware that if I'm not working for 2 years period of time, chances for me to get the job that I have now is very slim. Anyway, I never thought of working back as engineer. I'm thinking to further study after we come back or I would find a job that is not so demanding. My priority now is my children. I want to spend more quality time with them.
Anyway I don't intend to put aside the idea that I should be studying or working while I'm staying there. I'll see how are the things there. If the opportunity is there, why not?
Whatever it is, I am redha with the choice I make. So 'shuh-shuh' all the negative remarks!
8 comments:
"Since you are there and doing nothing, why don't you further study as well?"..aku pun akan tanya soalan yg sama...mungkin situasi kita tak sama, aku takde tanggungjwp pada sapa2..dan kau plak ada anak2 dan suami..maybe ckp kau betul jugak....dah penat keja..to this is a high time utk kau rehat sat....takpe neny...ni life kau kan...kau yg akan hadapi semua ni...jd, tepuk dada, tanya selera....
it's not wrong if u want to do it...anyway, why bother what ppl say?
weh klu ko ada hati nak study, go ahead...u can get 300 for one kid, klu hantar tadika dpt 150 aje...klu tak keje pun ada duit hehehe.
To hell with other people yg ckp macam tu. Jgn pikir pun tau!It's your life and nobody can tell you what you want to do. Besides, org yg sibuk takde keje lain tu bukan tlg or kasi duit kat you. I sokong 100% you ikut hubby and jaga anak2..drg tak pernah dok umah jage anak kot so ingat jage anak tu senang. Rezeki tu Allah akan bagi bukan je dr segi duit..kalau kita happy pun rezeki gak cuma org tak nampak..org dok nampak duit aje. Damn stupid org2 macam ni. Org dengki mmg ramai so jgn amik pot okay. Drg jeles you bole gi obersea and jalan2 makan angin kat tempat sejuk. hahaha. You nak sambung blaja ke ape ke..Allah always has a better plan for you. You just need to have the faith and believed it.
yo neny..ko ni prob mcm aku la..just aku takde ank je..aku mula2 nk resign n ikut dulu seronok gile..yelah nk p obc la kataka..lama2..aku boring mcm apa ntah..tp kat uk aku ok la aku keje sume..leh travel..duk sini kdg2 boring tp dh get used sb asik sopink keje aku..duk obc best oo sopink brg branded takyah pk byk kali n leh beli byk2..kahkahak..mesti org tu jeles ngn ko..sb duk mesia beli brg branded byr ratus2 dpt satu..kikikiki..takyah pk org kata jom join aku melepakkan diri kat sini..nway brp lama ni ko ikut husband ni?
just go for it, if given the chance i would do the same. you can always enhance your child care skills, itu utk kebaikan anak2 jugak, there are so many things to learn, writing, baking, involve dgn your children social activities pun very seronok. Learn from the locals the good things they can offer. I'm sure you won't get bored, not a single second, and you will certainly not regret it. i believe your husband will be greatful, and infact need all your support by taking care your growing child, and offering your loves and supports lebih2 lagi bila masa2 stressful. take care ok. teruskan achieving your dreams.
-akak-
Are-T: Mmg aku rasa nak berehat aje tempoh 2 thn tu. Rehat in a way x sesak kepala pk keje.
Zara: Budak2 dapat duit ke zara? Or depends pada state?
Nurul: Shopping,Nurul? Waa...bestnya!
Anonymous: Thanx for the supports. I never thought that my decision is wrong. It's just that when people give u negative remarks, somehow it affects my feeling. Saya percaya pada konsep rezeki. So bila balik nanti, akan sy pk kan apa langkah sepatutnya.
You just won't regret it... believes me :)
Dal, lamanya senyap....sibuk ke?
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